What our kids need from us today?

Today children are finding out parents who can empathise with them. Are they asking too much from us? Or is it that we cannot understand their needs.

As a parent ask this question to yourself -Do you often make mistake of judging your kid when they are wrong? What they need at that time is empathy

Empathy -the only was to life for our kids.

Now there are major way we are looking at our Children.

1. Sympathise

2. Apathies

3. Empathise

Now Sympathise means pity. Apathies means -Lack of interest in other feelings. Empathise means- understand and share the feelings with others.

We have three approaches to judge our children -

1.Sympathise – will destroy kids

2. Apathies - will destroy kids

3. Empathise - will create our kids

When children do something wrong, they are mistaken, they are confused, they are in a gush of emotions. They don’t know what to do. They don’t know the difference between right or wrong .then they go to a close friend and the is asking them to lie or cheat ,so they are in a situation where they don’t know if they are a good friend or a friend who is hiding their mistakes .That the time kids don’t need scolding ,lecture, explanation. This is a time when they need somebody to empathise them .to understand the war with in.

This is time when children expect empathy from the parent says- I can connect with your emotions, I can understand your emotions. I am willing to listen to your point of view I have trust even if u make a mistake you will learn from it .This is empathy what children expect from us.

When we adults make mistakes, we expect the same from people around. We need someone to COUNT ON, so do Children.

Children needs someone at home who understands them and would not point them.

After he makes a mistake he may be in a state of guilty, sometime may also be defensive. Embrace him and give him a feeling of connect, a feeling which say “I understand, and I trust” you will learn. let them feel reassured. We need to deal the situation with an easy and simple way the way is EMPATHISE.

Let us trust the ability of our kids to come out of murky situations. We need to contribute our guidance with tons of empathy. Only then our kids will find a friend in you! and trust you!